Cheesy lines like this are what made the 80’s movies so charming. Some guy meets a lady, and actually asks her permission to cover her alcohol. If she says yes, that must mean he’s getting somewhere, right?
Actually, it could be helpful, or it is actually a really bad idea, depending on what else is going on in the interaction. Here are some ways to share with if buying her a drink is a good idea or not.
First off, if she outright asks you to buy her a drink, and you haven’t been talking her that long, this can be a definite example of when you should NOT buy one. For something, it’s pretty rude to ask a stranger to buy you something. There must be some real comfort building and “getting to know you” before you buy a lady a drink.
It’s even worse if she expects you to buy her sister, her girlfriend, as well as another guy a drink at the same time 個工. If this happens, she’s obviously using you. Smile, look amused and say “I’m fine, thanks.” There’s no reason to justify yourself or explain. You should be relaxed.
However, if you’ve been talking for somewhat and it’s YOUR idea to get her a drink, that’s perfectly fine and gentlemanly, provided that it’s not from a host to you wanting to impress her. It’s to be always a generous, friendly gesture, not just a needy one.
One situation where buying a drink can be helpful, is when you need to go a female from her friends. Once you two are talking, suggest you two head to the bar. Once you’ve visited the bar and gotten drinks, say “Let’s take a lap,” and look for a place to sit down. Being from her peer group, and sitting alongside her, makes it much easier to charm her without distractions.
Remember not to belong to the trap of shopping for her drink after drink all night. You may think she’s getting wasted enough to go house with you, but all over the nightlife scene you’ll meet the girl that may let a man feed them a half dozen glasses of alcohol, and not give him her number at the end.
Provided that you employ good sense, friendly and sociable to buy people drinks in bars, whether they’re male or female. The easiest way to share with if you should purchase is think about, “If I knew I couldn’t have her, would I nevertheless be buying her a drink?” If the clear answer is yes, you’re in the clear. Here’s to your bar success!